‘Passion plus expertise plus service’

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Jay Shetty defines purpose as “passion plus expertise plus service”, and it’s safe to say that after what he calls a “23-year journey” – including a three-year stint as a monk Vedic – he found his true calling. As an author, podcaster and goal coach, Shetty is now immersing himself in his latest role as newly created goal director for meditation app Calm, an opportunity that will see him help others find that purpose and greater meaning in their own lives. .

“I would say my goal today is to help everyone train their minds for peace and purpose every day,” the Think like a monk the author tells Yahoo Life’s The Unwind. “I believe it’s a skill. I believe it’s something we can train, and I want to be able to help provide the tools, techniques, and platforms where people can actually come and go. ‘engage with those insights and insights in a way that’s relevant, practical, and accessible.”

To begin with, it is launched The Daily Jaya series of seven-minute sessions that will offer Calm audiences a mix of meditation, motivational insights drawn from their own experience and study, and most importantly, manageable action items that any listener can easily implement .

“All of this insight and wisdom that I’ve gained is what we’ve really worked to refine and define for The Daily Jay“, he says, “so that in seven minutes a day, we can actually help people not only practice the meditation behind this wisdom, but also apply it in their daily lives.”

Shetty’s own path to finding purpose in life has been far from linear. Aged 18, he was attending business school in his hometown of London when his friends convinced him to join them to hear a monk speak, which he admits he reluctantly agreed to on the condition that they go next. in a bar. The monk’s speech, however, proved to be life transforming.

Jay Shetty talks about his old life as a monk, finding his purpose and his new role at Calm. (Photo: Getty/Quinn Lemmers)

“When I was 18, I met rich people. I met famous people. I met beautiful and attractive, strong and powerful people,” he says. “But I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who was really happy, who was really content. And this monk had that.”

Shetty started traveling to India during her summer holidays to study with the monk. After graduating, at age 22, he took the leap to become a Vedic monk himself. It was a far cry from the bustling business world he had left behind in London.

“We woke up every day at 4 a.m.,” he says of his three years as a monk. “We slept on the floor. All of our belongings fit in a gym locker. We had two sets of robes – you wear one, you wash one. Half the day was spent in self-control and meditation, and the other half of the day was service to go out there and try to make a difference in the world.”

While the lifestyle came with a number of challenges for someone used to having their own space, independence, and choices, Shetty was drawn to the idea of ​​devoting their time to this self-control and service.

“What I found so fascinating was that the morning hours were about understanding yourself: understanding your own mind, training your own habits, training your own ego and your own character and your own resilience,” says- he. “And then the rest of the day was about, ‘Can we let the world know this? Can we go out there and share it?'”

He finally realized during his third year as a monk that this lifestyle was not his true calling, as he felt compelled to share these lessons more widely with the bustling urban culture he had left behind. behind him. indeed, his new role in Calm will see him help organizations prioritize mental health in the workplace. But Shetty credits his experience as a monk with giving him the tools to help him overcome adversity in life, namely adaptability, commitment to service, mindfulness and a better understanding of his feelings. He compares those three years at school and the nine years since he left for the next exam.

Now a bonafide wellness figure whose insight has been sought after by the likes of Jada Pinkett Smith and Matthew McConaughey, Shetty uses these tools to help others find their purpose — something he says society discourages in favor of. of the pursuit of success at all costs. The real purpose, he argues, is an “equation” that combines passion, skill and the opportunity to serve others.

“What do you deeply appreciate, that you are immersed in, that you might even obsess over?” he explains. “Have you also developed the skills around that? I think that’s often forgotten. I think we think our passion is enough, but it has to be a skill, and expertise is something we have to build. And finally, service: are we using it to improve the lives of others?”

An example would be someone who is passionate about art, develops photography skills, and serves others by capturing beautiful images of the world around them. Or, in Shetty’s case, a passion for meditation and mindfulness, the skills he learned during his training as a monk, and his commitment to now sharing those skills with the world. That’s not to say he’s settled on his exact focus as his work evolves, though; he sees himself as “always in pursuit” of his goal – “and the longer I allow myself to pursue, the more I enjoy the journey”, he adds.

Some farewell advice from the new King of Calm? When stress hits, engage the “3 S’s” – smell, sight and sound – to help you be more present and less distracted. Shetty also reminds herself not to panic out of reflex when asked to make a decision.

“I think the most important thing that keeps me calm is knowing that I don’t have to make a decision,” he shares. “When you’re forced to make a decision – maybe you saw an email, maybe someone messaged you, maybe someone asks you a question – we’re often stressed out because we feel like we have to make a decision now. And I think one of the things I calm down on is like, ‘Well, actually, is this the right decision? Am I focusing on the right thing? Is that even the right question?” So I think giving myself that time and space is a really healthy way to calm down and find calm.”

—Video produced by Kat Vasquez.

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